There’s a question on Orkut profile: “Ideal first date”. I wrote a very romantic answer to this… But today if you ask me I will reply differently.
An ideal first date is the one which would put you firmly and irrevocably on a path to an eternal and beautiful relationship.
I have a weak heart. I cannot endure shattered dreams. What if a relationship started with the perfect first date… followed by one heavenly meet after the other… you think you have found a soul-mate. There are ominous signs but you disregard them. “Love conquers all”, “I love her precisely for this so-and-so of hers”, etc. etc. And then one day the reality strikes, what are disagreements first turn into fights. One thing leads to the other and where is the sweetness of the first date then…
Imagine the other situation. You both meet, but there are no sparks flying, no saxophones playing, she doesn’t look like “the one”. An uneventful first, second, third meeting… but slowly a bond develops. There’s mutual respect and understanding. And love grows like a seed to sapling to plant to tree. Slowly, surely, firmly. Nothing fantastic, nothing grand, nothing romantic. Yet pure love.
My idea is not the second or the first one – merely this – God if you have made a soul mate for me, please show me “this is the one”, please do not play with me, I cannot bear this cat-and-mouse play. Let us meet, let us fall in love, let me convey my feelings, let her accept them, and let us live happily ever after. If you want me to put through a test please let me know before hand – I will definitely pass. Come what may. But let there be no doubt about the candidate! And if there is no candidate for me in your scheme of things, OK! I’m completely ok. It’s the uncertainty that I dislike.
Give me permanence… Give me peace…
42 comments:
permanence nd peace rarely go hand in hand dear....
Can you pl identify yourself?
identify myself?hmmm.....i am struggling to do the same all this time.
That is a very "philosophical" statement... right?
Can you please give your name - the name people call you by? I do not see how this can be twisted!
Can't wait... :)
whats in the name? im just a nobody like u.....uh, well....that's what your favourite poem says right?
oh yes and regarding the "philosophical" part; i read your blogs that were quite philosophical and heavy,so thought a little bit of philosophical talk wont harm either of us,so came here.
Ahem!regarding the "cant wait" part.....i just hope you dont start expecting too much out of this whole thing......hellloooo u dont even know who am i.......
I want to take a guess - is this Sumesh Rao - it is a long shot. Just curious though...
Thr are only two nobody's one is Emily and the other one is me. And this is apl... :)
If u are not sumesh then u can be any1 in the world and I will never know :(
TC...
i am not the one u r guessing....i am a complete stranger to u. So dont u worry,even if u dont know me ever,wud not make much difference in your life......so just chilll.....its just that i liked your thoughts very much....i just wish u get an equally sensible partner in life.....god bless you; see.. what a blessing comes from my heart for a stranger like you....
Thanks a lot! I will count myself as fortunate that a "stranger" like you wishes me so well... Do u have similar tghts - please share... bye
oh - and by the way - if you know so much about me - my tghts - are we really "strangers"? Isn't tht 'strange'? :-)
Dnt worry - no names required... Take care frnd - :-)
Thanks for sparing the time to read through all of this blabber...
well...u r right,we might as well call each other friends,after all it is so difficult to find a true one in todays world.....so if u r a gem i might try hard to keep u :-)...and as far as i am concerned,well uh, i am the most sought after gem(he he now thts an ego boost for me)....we have one thing in common,we feel the need to express ourselves,our innermost feelings from the bottom of our hearts....i am probably just like u :)
well...just out of curiosity,might i ask...if u have someone special in ur life?
Thanks! Delighted! Honored!
No the post is still vacant!
hmmmmm!!!!! so searching for someone? r u?
well i know its none of my business,but i have a wild guess tht u liked someone in the past....got tht feeling from ur blogs. U dont hv to answer if u dont want to...we can talk on someelse of ur choice....nd yes,by the way, i know u by face now...saw ur pics on ur orkut profile...
pl drop me ur mail id and I will reply... mine is shahapurkar.girish@gmail.com
if i had to disclose my id...i cud have done tht long back .....niways....bye n take care
do u watch/ read lot of marvel comics? :) Superhero (or woman) not wishing to be identified.
Anyways - I did not want to publish the comments. Now that I have done it - yes I am single. Yes I liked someone. Yes I am looking.
Happy Friendship day!
oh ya forgot...happy friendship day to u too :)no i hate readings comics....i luv reading novels,nd going out with friends....well have u guessed by now my gender??? nd dont mind about my previous question..im just a gud mind reader and a face reader too.....sometimes my predictions about someones past and also personality r correct...only sometimes :)
i really pity the person who cud not be a part of ur life.....she is really unfortunate..what say?now thts an ego boost for u...aint it?
No - guess it is 95% chance of being female.
BTW, I consider myself a "zero ego" person. May not be 100% true - but I am definitely not looking for ego boosts. :-)
Well, I cannot be so sure that she was unlucky. Let us leave it at that - if u notice the date stamp - it was long time ago.
I do consider myself as a good reader of men. That's all - only men. Female elude me completely. It is far far too easy to size up a man.
Pics can be misleading if u just see one side. Remember a person is multi-faceted. I mean it figuratively too.
BTW, do u realise all tht we are talking is in full public domain. Like chatting on a loudspeaker!
hmmmm.....so u cant continue chatting on the blog nd i dont want to disclose my id,so i guess this is it then...well u were right,i am a woman.It was nice trying to know u.My blessings for u r still the same. take care friend.God bless u always.
he he he... that is sure a let down... but no problems...
tc... let just the conv flow
suffice to say - maybe someone wud have said/ may say the same thing of me... perhaps even u... In hindsight everything is easy. And ifs and buts are aplenty... god bless...
and what u said is a REAL ego booster. ;-)
have u ever tried to find what is ur purpose in life, i try hard to figure out mine, but in vain :(
Never tried that... :( guess was never so much planned in life... But maybe u can say - I want to have a peaceful death - to know that I have hurt no one and that I will be missed. that's all i guess.
uh... oh! talking bout death just like emily does mostly? well lucky u,u hv a clear vision bout ur life(or death!!???)
he he he... no I am very much alive and like to be. her idea of death is not horrid though. it is like finality. I guess she was actually looking forward to it. Nevertheless, she did not die early. :-)
I also like to live the way i said - hurting as little as possible. Although, many ppl may or may not agree. But true there is no "grand vision". Maybe little dreams etc. about home, family, kids (daughter basically ;-)) etc. nothing gr8.
so sweet....god bless u with all tht u dream of.
thanks a lot!
btw, hw come u are u online at odd hours... :)
Meaning? What happened?
this is sad... don't worry... things will look up soon... :-) esmile please
yes... sooner than you would think... :-)
Ever - is a big word u knw.
thanks 4 d compliment - and good to clear the confusion. :-)
as i said sooner than u think.
just like u r in luv with emily....my first luv is ghalib...i am crazy about his shayari...he and his creations are out of this world!!! so when r u planning to settle down? the bride hunt must be on in full swing;-)
Oh! is that so? I do not understand Hindi well enough - let alone urdu. But yes, I have read Meena Kumari's shayari... :-) I love her... but that's too much tragic yaar... :-(
yes the search is in full swing - not lucky yet.
yes, I do. i.e. both believe and have... but I hope that the bestest and closest friend I ever should have shud b my life partner... tht one will never leave my side. :)
let's see what life has in store... :)
thanks - it is really heartening to know that there is hope :) isn't it? :-)
what else - i guess u do nt work - coz u did not mention it...
kid(s) or a pet? :-)
and going by the rate u r reading emily dickinson - I guess u will be in love with her if u already are not :)
this commenting is getting tedious... :(
u knw wht i want :)
i have a beautiful baby boy,10 mnths old :)who is veryyyy naughty.I just started reading emily's poems coz of u,and i agree she is something else!!!!
hey... that's great... wow... agreed it is a more than full time job... :)
Thanks for the comment on Emily. :)
Now toh u must....... ;)
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